Hey Reader,Yesterday, Cory Booker stood on the Senate floor and spoke for 25 hours and 4 minutes. He broke the record set by Strom Thurmond—the longest filibuster in history—turning it on its head, reclaiming it. He did it to disrupt business as usual. He did it to disrupt the news cycle.He did it to speak up and speak out.To give voice to the millions of people steamrolled by policies, profits, and power. He did it to do something to push back and say: enough is enough And almost...
5 months ago • 1 min read
Hey Reader, For the last several months, I’ve been devoted to growing my audience. And there’s been this persistent, gnawing knowing in my gut:Video is the way. Not because I want to do it. I don’t. But every time I try to sidestep it—reach for something easier, more comfortable, more behind-the-scenes—I land right back at the same truth:If I want to grow, I have to be seen. And for me, that means video. Still, I’ve been dragging my feet. Avoiding. Procrastinating. Getting swept up in false...
5 months ago • 1 min read
Hey Reader,I recently attended a Meet-up for folks who were reeling from the election results. It was a huge turn-out and I listened to a lot of people. We were all craving connection and support after such a disappointing outcome. What struck me most was the wide variety of opinions on why it happened. Everyone seemed to have a different theory, about whose fault it was. This got me thinking about the difference between fault and responsibility, and it’s a distinction that feels especially...
10 months ago • 3 min read
Reader, Last week I made some big decisions. At the time, in my body, I felt calm. I felt connected with my whole self. I felt curious. These decisions came from what I call my Creative Belief (the CB is the opposite of my Core Wound - we spend the first two weeks in Daddy Issues: Somatic Reparenting for People Who Feel Stuck discovering both of these sensations and beliefs in our body). I was so excited about these decisions. I felt expansive when I made them! And then I promptly collapsed...
about 1 year ago • 4 min read
Reader, This was my view from my campsite in the Grand Tetons earlier this summer. Campsite 12C on Lake Leigh, Grand Tetons In January I set the goal to go backpacking for my birthday in June. To reach this goal, I had to expand what I was capable of - physically, of course. But also, what I was capable of handling in my nervous system. There was a time, not too long ago, when I used to just collapse when I bumped up against something hard for me to do - whether it was physically hard...
about 1 year ago • 2 min read
Hey Reader! This month in Daddy Issues: The Membership, we're assembling our Aftercare Kits. In the beta version of Daddy Issues: The Program, which wrapped at the beginning of the summer, we talked about our Aftercare Kits during our onboarding call. But I decided it was definitely worth spending an entire month on this topic - it's so important! Our Aftercare Kits are a list or some other kind of representation of the tools and practices members can use to navigate their nervous system. So...
about 1 year ago • 2 min read
Reader, Meeting Monsters can be kinda scary at first. I mean, these are the most unlikable, disgusting, shameful parts of ourselves. So it takes a bit of exhibitionist energy to bring these Monsters out in public - especially at first when your sense of humor and positive regard toward them may be...underdeveloped. I get that. Maybe a full-on Monster Playdate with all the other Monsters isn't for you yet. Maybe, like my kiddo when she was little, you want to hang back a bit and observe. You...
over 1 year ago • 1 min read
Hey Reader, Why bother Meeting and Playing with our Monsters? The purpose of a Monster Playdate is to let your Monster be fully heard and soothed…and perhaps to even find some humor and curiosity in parts we've previously found unpalatable, shameful, or disgusting. So often when our Monsters get activated, our Manager swoops in and shuts it all down. In this way we can end up bypassing our real experience. You may recognize your Manager’s voice when you tell yourself things like:It’s not that...
over 1 year ago • 3 min read
Hey Reader, Did you find any of your Monsters? Did they pop up in the wild? Did you resonate with some of the Monster Archetypes? Another place our Monsters like to hide is in our Dreams! Last night, I had a dream that a "bad guy" was chasing me through a grocery store! I ran to a check-out person to ask for their help and this person chasing me ran up to us and tried to convince the cashier that I was crazy! One way of working with our dreams is to imagine that all the characters are aspects...
over 1 year ago • 2 min read
